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  • Writer's pictureSteve Braun

Boundaries With Self

An observation I’ve been seeing lately with people I’ve been working with:

They become adept at setting and maintaining boundaries with other people, but often forget

about themselves in the process.

Considering how important boundaries are for interpersonal relationships, could we not

make the same argument about the importance of setting boundaries with yourself?

What setting boundaries with yourself looks like:

  • Keeping the promises you made to yourself

  • Not buying things you can’t afford

  • Healthy sleep routines

  • Using up vacation hours and mental health days

  • Unfollow toxic social media accounts or negatively impacting people

  • Balanced meals and nutrition

  • Taking time to process emotions and honour your feelings

  • Learn the value in saying NO.

Some more food for thought:

1. Be honest with yourself.

Before taking action toward any endeavour, such as making an expensive purchase or

pursuing a job promotion, ask yourself, “Who am I doing this for?”

If a pursuit will truly improve the quality of your life, then go for it. However, if you are

pursuing something with the hopes of garnering attention, then you need to say no to


2. Embrace your worth.

Your worth is an inherent and undeniable part of who you are. You are not defined by what

you do, or how much money you have.

Take pride in what you do and strive to be the best version of yourself. What other people

think of you is none of your business.

3. Honour your limits.

You can’t be everything to everyone–stop trying. You have a finite amount of energy and

time so be judicious with your resources.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others.

The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Water your own lawn.

What others are doing with their life has no bearing on you. Focus on living an intentional life

that is congruent with your values and goals.

5. Be fair to yourself.

Most of us are our own worst critic. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to

another human being.

Have realistic expectations of yourself. Are the goals you set reasonable and attainable?

Establishing healthy boundaries with yourself will help you stay within your sphere of

control and prioritize what matters most–You!

If you struggle setting boundaries…let’s connect!

Steve Braun

Call or Text: 778.932.1978

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About the Author:  Steve currently resides in the sunny Okanagan in British Columbia Canada where he spends his free time camping at remote lakes chasing monster rainbow trout with a flyrod.

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