I watched a really unsettling movie the other night called The VVitch.
What made it so creepy wasn’t the jump scare or the horror, but the slow pace of the suspense that slowly built up throughout the movie. Without spoiling it, you really don’t understand what is going on until the final scene reveal.
However, as much as I loved this movie, I found the final scene to be a bit of a let down compared to the rest of the story.
The anticipation was far scarier than the actual confrontation.
I find this is very similar to confrontation with others in real life. How many of you have had to confront a friend, family member or co-worker with an issue that was important to you?
I used to spend hours, sometimes days planning what I was going to say and how I was going to say it. Maybe a sleepless night or two the day before.
Fear of what their reaction would be. Will they stop talking to me, punch me, shun me? I always assumed the worst-case scenario.
I found that once I summoned up the courage to confront, the actual conversation and outcome wasn’t even close to how big I had made it out to be in my head.
The Stoic philosopher Seneca wrote, ‘We suffer more in our imagination than in our reality’.
I’ve learned that confrontation is a normal part of everyday life, and with a much better arsenal of communication tools today, the fear prior to confrontation is nearly non-existent.
While I enjoy the drawn-out anticipation of a scary movie, it is unnecessary and unhelpful in everyday matters.
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About the Author: Steve currently resides in the sunny Okanagan in British Columbia Canada where he spends his free time camping at remote lakes chasing monster rainbow trout with a flyrod.