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  • Writer's pictureSteve Braun

Making Mistakes

As Canadians, our politeness is almost inherent. We are quick to say sorry almost through

reflex-even when we aren’t in the wrong. While sincere in its intent, the word sorry often

appears to exonerate a wide array of sins.

Over-apologizing is a common symptom amongst individuals with low self-esteem, fear of

conflict and of judgement. It is synonymous with people pleasing and poor boundaries,

perhaps accepting blame for things we didn't do or couldn't control.

In 12 step programs, the 10th step reads: ‘Continued to take personal inventory and when

we were wrong, promptly admitted it’. For years I interpreted this as when I screw up, be

quick to say I’m sorry. But that’s not what is written. It encourages us to admit when we are


What’s the difference? Well I could say I was sorry all day long when I made a mistake, but

to admit that I was wrong? Me?? Never! No way my ego would allow that!

There is no accountability in a sorry. There is no lesson to be learned, there is no ego

deflation or humility to discover. This only happens when admittance occurs and ownership

is taken.

Some tips to consider when making a mistake:

Be honest with myself and others

Keep things in perspective

Recognize that I am one step closer to getting it right

Breathe, regroup and try again

Brainstorm ways to do it better next time

Learn from it

Take responsibility for what I did

Make amends if I hurt someone else

Forgive myself

Remind myself that I am human and as humans we make mistakes

Remember that I am not a mistake

Next time you screw up- own it and admit it. Discover the power in humility!

Tips source: WholeHearted School Counselling

Steve Braun

Call or Text: 778.932.1978

About the Author: Steve currently resides in the sunny Okanagan in British Columbia Canada where he spends his free time camping at remote lakes chasing monster rainbow trout with a flyrod.

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